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Internet Sex and Pornographic Habits in Hong Kong

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11:28 pm
April 29, 2011


Crystal

1

Very very interesting article I happened to read now and hurry to share it with you.

It's written by a researcher from Hong Kong university who created a profile on AFF – not Asia FriendFinder, but Adult FriendFinder – a site for people who look primarily for sex. Her cyber-personality was called "Lizzy Kinsey, scholarly sex machine" Laugh

She used this profile for two years during which gathered extensive information about the ways in which people engage in internet sex – specifically in Hong Kong.

Here are some interesting findings:

1) [Among] Asian females who use English to seduce others but whose mother tongue is Cantonese or Mandarin, we detect a wide range of names and personas associated with “whore-like” or “bad girl” femininity. 

In most cases the chosen names refer to universally sexy types and do not have any reference to ethnicity, such as “Exotic Allure”, “Naughty Mommy”, “Daily Diva”, “Wicked Angel” and “Sexy Bitch". However, in about 30% of the cases, women include various ethnic labels, such as “HKWifey”, “SakuraHK ”, “HK Lulu”, “Your China Lover” or “Gloomy China”.

2) For their profile pictures, females mostly use images of their nude bodies or close-up pictures of different body parts. The difference between female and male profiles is that women use a larger variety of body parts, while males largely use a picture of their penises.

 

Further, Katrien Jacobs (real name of "Lizzy Kinsey") described in details profiles of three Hong Kong members, whom she later interviewed: a couple of Chinese females Nin and Ning who dated and had sex exceptionally with Westerners; an expat male Damon who used internet dating for 10 years on and off; and a 44 years old Chinese male Pong Leung who dreamed to have sex with blonde.

It's worth to read the whole article here –> http://libidot.org/blog/2008/0…..hong-kong/

I will just quote an interesting observation made by Damon regarding internet dating and sex in Hong Kong:

There is a Chinese revolution of sorts going on at this site, but it is a female revolution. The Chinese men do not seem that interested, even though many of them have extra-marital affairs by visiting sex workers or taking on mistresses from mainland China. The gwailo population like myself takes advantage of this situation as there are a high number of sex starved Chinese women who are relatively easy to get. But there is some kind of revolution in that these women are starting to take control of this situation and take pleasure in it, by talking about it and showing it off. They have more lovers than you think they do. And of course the Internet has made it is much easier for these women to participate. You’d be surprised to see how many respectable women are actually out there.

6:52 am
April 30, 2011


Ally

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Hong Kong besides "prostitute" this noun, and popular now "aid sex" Actually no distinction and prostitutes.They just searching the Internet for sex object, then and money transactions , Hong Kong has a movie "囡囡" is about a young girl aid sex.

Why I smile? Coz you make me smile..`‵

8:53 am
April 30, 2011


Elijah

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Ally said:

Hong Kong besides "prostitute" this noun, and popular now "aid sex" Actually no distinction and prostitutes.They just searching the Internet for sex object, then and money transactions , Hong Kong has a movie "囡囡" is about a young girl aid sex.

Ally,

 

I appreciate that you want to contribute, but PLEASE stop using an internet translation service like Google Translate or BabelFish. To b honest, it's not working and it's pretty confusing.

 

Not telling you to stop trying, but actually try it by yourself or get a friend to help.

 

Keep learning!


There's always another way……..

Usually my way.

10:56 am
April 30, 2011


Ally

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Elijah:

 

Glad you comment to me, my English is poor now studying hard。 As a foreigner, English said well is very normal.

1)Freedom of speech.
2)You have no right to criticize and stop.
3)Your wife is Chinese, you as a husband, even China's most basic cultural "respect" you won't. I think you want to keep learning !!!

Why I smile? Coz you make me smile..`‵

11:45 am
April 30, 2011


Elijah

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Ally said:

Elijah:

 

Glad you comment to me, my English is poor now studying hard。 As a foreigner, English said well is very normal.

1)Freedom of speech.

2)You have no right to criticize and stop.

3)Your wife is Chinese, you as a husband, even China's most basic cultural "respect" you won't. I think you want to keep learning !!!


Ally:

 

1) I'm not impeding your freedom of speech in any way. You're free to say anything you like, same as me or anyone else. Although it's a bit funny to hear a chinese citizen talk about rights and freedoms…..

 

2) As you pointed out, I have every right to criticize, especially when it's either my opinion or a fact. Likewise, when you tell me to stop, you are infringing on MY freedom of speech.

 

3) My wife is NOT chinese and I'll thank you to never say that again. She's part Taiwanese and Japanese born in Hong Kong….. BEFORE the Brits so graciously gave it to the CCP (despite mass protests from the population….) As for respecting chinese culture, respect is earned, not given freely. Besides, what culture are you talking about, any traces of "ancient" chinese culture were wiped out during the Cultural "Revolution (try destruction, much more apt)". So really, the only culture china has comes from the CCP in the last 60 years. This is something I should respect?!?!? I'd rather spit on Mao's grave.

 

Also, please not, that although I criticized your English (sentence structure specifically) I did as a form of constructive criticism. I used to be an English teacher many moons ago and habits die hard. Further note that I clearly said that I wanted you to keep trying and not stop, which I think most people would see as encouragement.

 

Last little bit, when you reply to someone, try to leave out any personal attacks. It really doesn't gain support…..

 

Cheers!

 

PS. 

I followed a link in the "Qin Ai De" Section of this site and was led to your boyfriend's website. You two look like an amazing couple, very happy together and it's obvious how highly he thinks of you. I know, because it's the same way I feel about my Angel. I'm sure your family is waiting for the Half-Blood(cute term my wife uses, I like it cause it's Harry Potter-ish) kids, I know my parents in law are….

There's always another way……..

Usually my way.

12:42 pm
April 30, 2011


Ally

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Elijah:

 

Thanks for your comment, but you have to pay attention to your words, don't be so strict, let a person feel you are a personal attack !!

annoying  expression way, it really doesn't gain support !!

Why I smile? Coz you make me smile..`‵

2:36 pm
April 30, 2011


Crystal

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Unfortunately, I have to tag this thread as "Out of topic flames".

 

Elijah, 95% of this forum's members are English-speaking males.

Please, be more tolerant to non-native speakers as I wish that we can have more Chinese girls on this forum.

 

I know that you want to help and I appreciate your motives, but let me tell it in this way:

Whenever foreigners living in China say just a little bit more than "Ni Hao" – all Chinese will praise and encourage him/her.

I expect a similar attitude towards Chinese people trying their best to speak English.

10:00 pm
April 30, 2011


Bored in Melbourne

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Elijah,  I suggest that you go back and read through all of your posts while considering yourself a Chinese person, think about what impression someone else might get from reading that stuff.

 

I know that a guy your age is always right, I was also always right a decade ago, these days I have learned a lot and I am still only sometimes right, hmm how does that work out?  Could be the wisdom of life experience and an open mind.

 

Being self righteous is ok but you are presenting yourself as not only prejudiced against Chinese people and thinking but almost anti Chinese with the recent rants online here.  Do you realise this is a forum of people who like Chinese culture and are accepting of differences? 

11:21 pm
April 30, 2011


WanderingAmerican

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Elijah. You did way more harm than good. This thread has been successfully derailed.

"Ally" is my girl if you didn't know.

5:16 am
May 1, 2011


Elijah

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Crystal: I do speak conversationally fluent Mandarin and when I make a mistake I get it pointed out by both my wife and mother in law. So what? I get over it and move on. Sorry about the original topic, it was collateral damage.

 

Bored in Melbourne: Did I say that I'm always right? No, I'm pretty sure that in most of my posts I clearly say it's my opinion. Do I think my opinion is correct? Um… Yeah, just like every other person in the world until it's proven wrong. I love how people seem to think that age is something they can call me out for… Fact is that at my age I've done just as much and in many cases more than most twice my age. Funny how when I ask people what their life was like when they were "my age" they were no one near where I am now. Age…. As if the numerical amount of months someone's managed to stay alive really counts for anything besides on paper.

 

Something else that needs to be pointed out is this knee-jerk assumption that if someone doesn't fawn over chinese quirkiness, then they're "anti-chinese" (dun dun duuuuuuunnnnnn!!!). What does that mean? It has exactly the same impact as someone saying I'm "Anti-American" cause I disagree with Iraq, etc. Am I anti-chinese culture? Anti-chinese people? Anti-chinese country? Anti-chinese government? 

 

Wandering American: I was commenting on Ally's need to improve her sentence structure, nothing else. Could have taken a bit of criticism and moved on, would have saved a lot of explanation. It's the same thing I tell everyone. If you want me to say it more professionally, here: "Don't just try to translate it word for word. Try to take the meaning of the sentence and translate that and remember to apply what you've learned about English grammar." 

 

People need to calm down and realize that their inferences are not the same as the actual implications. It's a forum on chinese topics, forums are for discussions, discussions often foster disagreement, disagreement leads to debate, debate leads to new understanding.  

 

Play me out keyboard cat!

There's always another way……..

Usually my way.

5:37 am
May 1, 2011


WanderingAmerican

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*facepalm* Look fella. You reamed her too hard. You were rude. I'm not just saying that because she's my girl either. That was on par with making fun of a little kid for trying to read. Not cool. You're not going to admit wrongdoing but it's enough that everyone else who reads this thread will know you were wrong for what you did. Let's just let this topic die a slow death. I'm disappointed in you, Elijah.

"Ally" is my girl if you didn't know.

10:56 am
May 1, 2011


Bored in Melbourne

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Elijah I guess age can be a false measurement of maturity, are you displaying yourself as mature?

11:41 am
May 1, 2011


China Shark Mike

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I could participate yet what would be the point. The others stated the case quite succinctly. You may have achieved many things further than people many years your senior so what? I've traveled around the globe a few times, lived and worked in Japanese as well as Chinese culture. Was once married and later divorced to a Shanghai woman I met in Japan. It's just seem like you put yourself up on and pedestal and your selfidignitations matter. 26 yrs old is but a minute amount experience in life. It is said and I firmly believe the older I get in life the more I realize I truly don't know, that's my true definition of attaining wisdom in one's heart and soul. Here I thought I was the one with all the tude here, only to take the backseat to a young buck only beginning to understand what life's about, go figuire!Yell

Follow the Path Less Chosen and You Will Reap the Rewards of Life.

3:06 pm
May 1, 2011


Elijah

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Hey Ally and Wandering American, here's my wife and my blog. New Entry for you there.

 

http://blog.sina.com.cn/woaiba…..baobao1314

 

Cheers!

There's always another way……..

Usually my way.

3:16 pm
May 1, 2011


Garylong

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i was told to clean my teeth when i was young and never seen the need for it but now i am paying for it as most have come out and i suffer with much

pain and hate going to get  any thing done about it, that don't make me a fool nor wise, it just makes me human.

 

i was attacked when i first come here, all the time about every dot and comer, in the end people just are human and want to attack some one, when they

don't like them or see some thing they think they can do better.

 

in the end if there was a world war, would you care that the person standing next to you was not perfect? i bet not as if he or she can help you it don't matter how

good that person will do it as long as you get on together. some times there is not right nor wrong in the world age or not. wise or not.

i wish some of my students in china was bright at 26, they be a better person.

i can say one thing, if i had a very pretty wife or girlfriend, (even children) i would not use their photo as my Avatar on the web as in the mind of people will attacking the Avatar as thats what people see. i would respect my family.

if you want to have a Avatar have your own photo or some thing other than your family.

3:21 pm
May 1, 2011


Elijah

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Gary, my respects to you, but the Avatar bit is off. I don't picture you as a game character nor do I picture Wandering American as a chimp….. It's just a pic that people either like or want to use for some specific reason.

 

As for my Angel… Are you sure you want to step into my business of how I treat her picture?

 

Let's not and say we did.

 

Cheers!

There's always another way……..

Usually my way.

5:18 pm
May 1, 2011


WanderingAmerican

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Garylong said:

i was told to clean my teeth when i was young and never seen the need for it but now i am paying for it as most have come out and i suffer with much

pain and hate going to get  any thing done about it, that don't make me a fool nor wise, it just makes me human.

WHAT?!

"Ally" is my girl if you didn't know.

5:29 pm
May 1, 2011


China Shark Mike

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You guys are reallly too much.Laugh

Follow the Path Less Chosen and You Will Reap the Rewards of Life.

12:18 am
May 2, 2011


Bored in Melbourne

19

Crystal can you please start this thread again right after Ally's first reply as basically nothing after that is on topic at all and I personally think it could be a great thread.  I wonder how much actual 'hands on' research this lady undertook in HK? Cool

1:05 am
May 2, 2011


Garylong

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Elijah i just made this comment to see how reactive you are, I agree with (Bored in Melbourne) and (China Shark Mike) are Right your just a snot Nose Jerk, think you have a IQ bigger than your shoos  size… ! 4

to know a little bit about things don't make you a expect about life.