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Where’s Lysistrata? Taiwan’s Not-yet-dauntless Females - Part I

《吕西斯忒拉忒》在哪里?尚未大无畏的台湾女性 - 第一章

Guest article by KevinF

Kevin Fitzpatrick is copy editor and chief writer for Taiwan’s Yellow Fever, Foreign Moons, a blog managed by Shaun Bettinson. The blog explores Western-Taiwanese sexual and romantic relationships and sundry other cross-cultural matters.

Series Epigraph
“I want to tell her ‘Get over it.  And whatever you do, please don’t give us a third book about your relationship with your mother. Writing’s supposed to be cathartic, not fixating.’” – an American friend’s words after finishing Amy Tan’s second book, The Kitchen God’s Wife (1991)

Yellow Fever Foreign Moons

Artwork of Shena

Instrumentality and Fixation

“What do you think our biggest problem in Taiwan is?” my Chinese-language teacher asked.

I blinked, shifting back in my chair.  “I don’t know,” I said.  “I’ve only been here six weeks.”

She was already on to her answer, though. “I think we’re too easily satisfied.”

My ex-teacher meant everything:  living spaces, quality of service, manners, education system, government, boss-employee relations, depth of conversation between friends, and, most of all … … …

A couple years later, her mother was dying. “She’s never told me she loves me,” my now-ex- teacher said.  “I want more than anything to hear it.  It’s what I need more than anything else.”

“Why not tell her you love her and keep repeating it if she looks away?  And not get angry if she says nothing or at any dismissive words she says?  Even if you don’t get what you want, won’t you be saving your own life by doing your best on what matters most to you?”

“No,” she said, abstracted, misty-eyed, shaking her head. “No. No.”
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Few Tips on Choosing the Chinese Dating Site


Online dating

As you might know from some of my previous posts, I maintain a profile on ChineseLoveLinks dating site which I use to gather various statistical information. As someone who already doesn’t use it for the sake of dating itself, I pay attention to things which might be unnoticed by other site members. Some of these things can be actually very helpful to a person who wants to subscribe to one of the dating sites but not sure which one to choose.

Let’s say that you made up your mind to turn to internet dating arena but haven’t decided which service is good for you. Besides reading different forums and reviews, there are few simple tricks which you can implement and save time and money.

Probably one of the most important factors to consider is the popularity of dating site. After all, dating is the game of numbers and if there are not enough available members, you will quickly find that every time when entering any specific search criteria, you end up with too few profiles to choose from.
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Chinese Women and One Child Policy


One child policyDuring a recent telephone conversation with my mom, she mentioned that few months ago she started receiving a monthly payment (about 50 RMB) for the fact that I am the only child in family. But if my parents wouldn’t comply with the one child policy, they – as urban residents belonging to Han majority – would have to pay big fines.

Everyone knows that China has implemented a family planning policy promoting the small family culture – preferably one child only. Strictly speaking, however, there are many different exceptions from this rule that eventually exempt from it 60% of population.

For example, rural residents can have a second child, especially if the first one is girl or has physical disability or mental illness… Putting females in the same category with disabled is telling, huh?
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Ten Stories About Materialistic Chinese Girls


Chinese Girl and MoneyWhat kind of impression do people have about Chinese girls? Some time ago I wrote a post summarizing the most widespread adjectives used by foreigners to describe us. It’s not surprise that in the poll (included in that post) most readers regarded Chinese girls as beautiful. People who think otherwise possibly wouldn’t visit my blog.

However, “beauty” didn’t make the voters blind to some unpleasant characteristics and the second, third and fourth places went to “insecure”, “gold-digger” and “immature” females. I assume that this impression partly comes from personal experience. But in many cases it is formed through sharing anecdotes with friends and reading weird stories on internet.

Imagine a man who never had a chance to communicate with any Chinese girl. What impression would he have if his only source of information was internet? I bet that in my poll he would choose the option “gold diggers”.
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Why Chinese Men/White Women Couples Are Rarer Than White Men/Chinese Women?


Interracial Couple

Interracial dating and marriage is a natural phenomenon in the countries where people of different races live together. Of course, the proportion of interracial couples is smaller than in the imaginary experiment where partners are paired in a totally random way. It shows that we do have a preference to date and marry people from our own racial group… But this is hardly a surprising fact.

More interesting patterns can be discovered if we take a deeper look into statistics. One of such patterns – when it comes to Asians, and especially Chinese – is related to the gender disparity in interracial marriages. That is, the number of Chinese women marrying white men is 2 to 3 times higher than the reverse tendency (Chinese men marrying white women).

Different explanations have been offered for this phenomenon. Here are some of them:
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