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Qin Ai DeQin Ai De (亲爱的) is an affectionate name that Chinese use for their beloved. It can be translated as “darling” or “honey” or “sweetheart”…

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Tiger mothering chez Casa Kaulins?

via Andis Kaulins in China by Andis Kaulins on 4/2/11
In his March 2011 diary, John Derbyshire responds to a request from a reader for details about the parenting going on at his home. The requesting reader was curious after reading Derb's thoughts on Amy Chua, the Tiger Mom.

…..the number of people who are sure they have got parenting right is damn small; and that small number of people are all so damn smug about their achievement, the rest of us hate them anyway.

So I'm not speaking with any confidence here. That said, the pattern in the Derb household is a sort of lower-key version of the Chuas: Mom does the tiger business, nagging and harassing the kids to do homework, music practice, chores, etc., while Dad flaps around vaguely in the background murmuring: "Perhaps we should let them go out and play now, honey …"

Mrs D has the Chua tendency, but in nothing like so concentrated a form as Amy Chua herself. There are no tooth-marks on our piano. The music lessons — daughter violin and dance, son piano and school band — were all her doing. It's she who pounces on the school reports and demands to know why this semester's grade in Social Science is three points lower than last. (How does she remember?) [...]

Another ” First ” for the Month of April .

via The Life I share with my Wife / LaoPo / Tai Tai … ” QING ” ! by Shanghai MiFeng on 4/2/11
This year seems also to be on the fast track , as it is April already . Now I know I have written about many of Qing’s firsts , but this one is different . It belongs to myself this time . As you know , with the rising Gasoline Prices and all that is effected by it becomes more expensive . So to counter that , I had done something .. that is really a true “First ” for me . The last couple of Month’s , Qing and I have looked into .. me going to Work by Train . Ohhh .. even though this sounds not unusual , it is the first time I get on any Public transportation .. other then an Airplane . This only is true of course here in the States , as I have ridden Public Trans. many time back in the old Country .

New Beginnings

via Wandering American by beaufortninja on 3/27/11
Hey dudes. For those of you who don’t know yet, I am now pretty much engaged to Jen. GASP! I know, right? I had originally been planning on waiting for at least two years due to my financial situation (I’ll get into that in a second) but since things are looking so much brighter now we don’t have to wait so long. It was a lot to ask of her to wait for that long and only be able to see her a few times a year. As of right now I have about $20,000 in college loans to pay back and I wanted to have as much of that paid off as I could before I moved to China. Just so I could start my life without anything to worry about. But now I don’t have to worry about any of that. A family member who I’m very close with, not really at liberty to say who right now, decided to give me part of my inheritance money early because they wanted me to start my adult life with a clean slate. Initially I was a little hesitant about it. I don’t like getting something for nothing. Maybe I have too much pride. But, in the end it was freely offered and I accepted. So now I’ll be moving to China before the end of the year. I’ll need to make money here for the flight, apartment, and initial costs of course but other than that I’m good to go [...]

Kimi Got Her Visa

via Diary of a Laowai in England by Chris on 3/14/11

I have been hugely delayed writing this post, but a few weeks ago Kimi and I received the good news that the British embassy had decided to grant her a visa to come to the UK to marry me. We had waited months for an answer to our weighty application, going through Halloween, Christmas, New Year and Chinese New Year with no hint of an answer. Finally in mid February, Kimi received a package containing just her sole passport, but with the new visa stuck inside. That was that!

The application for the marriage visa was no small feat, the amount of paperwork needed for such a visa is quite astonishing [...]

What Have I Learned

via The Chinese Dumpling Blog by Martin on 3/11/11

So the question I have been asking myself lately is, what did I learn from the past two years? I mean, besides the obvious things, like culture and cuisine. I did learn a lot about Chinese culture. And I have a feeling, that I probably haven’t even scratched the surface. It would likely take years to understand, and grasp all the small intricacies of a countries culture. But the question does swirl around my mind. What did I learn? Did I learn anything? Its not like I had specifically gone out, and looked for an Asian wife. In fact, this was never on my mind, when I met Zhifang. So what was it?

I think that really, the biggest thing I have learned, is that communication is everything. While we had great communication in letters, and using instant messaging programs, the reality was, we did not have as good an ability to communicate as I had expected. The language barrier was always present, when it came to deeper levels of communication. Yes, we could talk about day to day things, with little difficulty. But the bigger things often were left unsaid because there wasn’t any way to say them [...]

China Marriage 101 Moving to Live Network

via Chinese Marriage and Immigration to USA by Randy Marsh on 3/5/11

China Marriage 101 Community

Coming 03/09/11

After years of developing friendships with U.S./Chinese couple we wanted a way to stay connected. Now, not only can we deliver information that can be up-dated on a moments notice, couples can stay connected for fellowship in the years to come.

CMCheadeshort2 China Marriage 101 Moving to Live Network

The network format will provide members a means to share wedding, travel photos, and videos with each other. In addition, messaging, broadcast and IM, voice and video.

Groups Forums

China Marriage Visa Group – IR-1, CR-1, K-3, and Direct Consular Filing (DCF)

China Fiance Visa Group – Members filing K-1 Fiance Visas

Chinese Spouse/Fiance Support – Chinese members in the U.S. offering support and encouragement… Invite your loved one to join [...]

When the going gets tough, the tough…. sew a leopard suit

via Bring on the Night by Peter on 3/2/11

In between, what must have been nearly 2 very tough years and counting for us, there are many glimpses of light if you care to look for them. Mark is really growing up. He’s in good shape and a master of keeping us on our toes.

Friday he’s attending a traditional Danish children’s party called “Fastelavn” which basically is a Halloweenish sort of thing. Kids dress up and bash the hell out of a barrel with a live cat inside. Well, the cat thing is true, but fortunately now a thing of the past. Now the barrel is filled with candy and fruit instead which seems a bit more animal friendly.

Even though Mark just turned 1 year old, and probably has no clue what it means to dress-up and whack the god ol’ barrel, C insisted that he got an outfit. After hunting one down in Aalborg’s many shops, she couldn’t find any fitting him. So she decides to sew one herself. Price: 80kr (about 16USD) worth of fabric and 1½ days work at the sewing machine. I think she did very well considering that she never ever made clothes before, right?


via How to get Married in China… by 尼克 on 2/28/11

  1. Your wife will need a new exam beyond the one she had to get her K3 Visa in GuangZhou, China. You can also find a list of USCIS civil surgeons in your area at
  2. You need both I-797 and I-797c for the I-130 receipt notice
  3. Emails and letter that you exchanged with your wife should prove that you are married to each other . The letters should have content showing love, care and trust that you guys have in each other . Do you have any life insurance, car insurance, bank statements wherein both you and wife are joint holders? Such documents could suffice as well. In absence of either, you will have to get notarized statements by family and friends who were witness to the wedding . They will need to FedEx it to you in case they can’t send it to you via email.
  4. You need your bank statements for last 12 months and Pay stubs for at least the last 60 days.

Closing Up Shop….

via Lao Wai Wen Shen – Blog on 2/26/11

It’s been fun but I’m going to hang up the gloves on this blog, at least for the foreseeable future. I’m very busy these days with teaching, family, and home so I don’t have too much time to post new entries, and honestly, I don’t really have that much to say anymore. I’ll just say that life is good and getting better, and I’m enjoying my new home with my wife and son and chihuahua. I’ve got some plans for the future that will hopefully work out but life is always twisting and turning, and it can still be fun even when it doesn’t work out the way you plan it. Just smile and roll with it; don’t waste time worrying, just do your best and deal with things when they happen. That’s my idea, anyway. So adios amigos, and always remember to turn on the lights when you’re taking a leak- it’s just easier that way.

Dutch passport baby born in China

via feed on 2/18/11

Parents of babies born in China have to do quite a lot of paperwork to obtain foreign citizenship and passport. I’ll explain the procedure for a Dutch parent (me) and a Chinese parent (my wife). First you need to declare the birth, after that you can apply for a passport. If both parents are Dutch, then they can only declare the birth of the baby at the Dutch embassy in [...]

Countdown to getting married!

via Something Worth Having by Muireadach on 6/17/10

I guess I should update this!

Chinese New Year 2010

The New Years trip to China was just wonderful. I met GQ’s parents, shared the traditional new Years dinners with them and met her sister. It was such a wonderful trip in so many ways. Most importantly the all important marriage conversation with GQ’s mother went well and she welcomed me into the family. I must say my hands were shaking during that conversation! Her mother also thought me how to make Chinese dumplings which was great fun and very tasty too, however I was more expert at the eating part of things :D .

Guangqiong and I have so many happy memories from then, every day was wonderful, everyday was a treasure that I shall never forget. GQ and I fell more and more in love as each day went by [...]